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One of the Best Things You Can Do

Another thing to talk about and one of the best things you can do for your marriage is study the bible together. As a start, I suggest getting a concordance and looking up husbands, wives and marriage and finding out what God has to say on these subjects. It will give you a clear picture of the way marriage should be. But don’t stop here. Make it a regular habit to study the bible and pray together. Meet with other married couples who are studying the same passages of scripture you are. It’s a great way of building enduring friendships, … Continue reading →

Beware the Stereotype

According to the experts men are notoriously bad about going to the doctors. Even as I write this, I am aware it is a generalization and therefore suspect. A doctor I heard about recently has tried to combat the problem by introducing a man friendly waiting room. He’s thrown out all the women’s magazines and replaced them with fishing and motoring magazines. He always has the TV tuned into the Sports channel. When Mick heard about it he was horrified at the stereotyping. ‘Who said guys are only interested in fishing and cars?’ Mick is not into either. It’s the … Continue reading →

Staying in Love

Falling in love is easy. ‘Staying in love, creating a love that last, is the tough part.’ These were words a mother said to her son who was soon to be married. I read them this week in a novel by Marie Bostwick, called A Thread So Thin. Just because it is a novel the words came from doesn’t mean there’s not a lot of truth in them. In fact a lot of the advice about love and marriage handed out in this novel rings true. You suspect many of them came from actual conversations. I’d be interested to ask … Continue reading →

Believer Married to Non Believer- Part 2

Today I’m continuing with more tips about dealing with an unbelieving spouse when you are a believer.Instead of preaching at them, a better way is given in 1 Peter 3:1-4. Don’t talk about what you believe, but instead show it by the way you live. Let your love and actions speak to them and trust God to be at work changing their heart and attitudes. Remember God wants what is best for you and your spouse. Remember too, that it is God’s work to change your spouse’s attitude and heart, not yours. Hard as it may be to accept, remember … Continue reading →

A Worrying Trend

Lately there seems to have been an upsurge in the number of people in the forums raising the issue of a Muslim marrying or being involved in relationship with a Christian. In nearly each case it is the man that is the Muslim. I think it is a worrying trend. Marriage is hard enough to maintain through the tough times and the problems life throws at us, without added complications and being at odds with your spouse over what should be the most fundamental things. Firstly though, we need to define what people mean when a person declares themselves a … Continue reading →

Should I homeschool without my husband’s consent?

Recently, the question was posed, “Should I homeschool without my husband’s consent?” Many times the wife is motivated to homeschool while her husband is against the idea. This issue can cause feelings of frustration and stress which can manifest into arguments. Like the mouse with the cookie, this leads to fighting and the fighting leads to insecure children and that leads to a long line of making independent decisions which continues to erode at a marriage. Due to this snowball effect, my answer is that homeschooling is not an option unless both parents are on board. Homeschooling is a massive … Continue reading →

What It Means To Be Head of the Household- Part 3

In the last two blogs I have made the point that being head of the household does not mean the husband dominating his wife but them working together as a partnership. So if we make decisions most of the time through discussion and by talking things through together, how can I say that my husband is head of the household? How exactly does that work out in practice? Let me tell you. He is the head of the household because ultimately he is the one who will make the final decision. If we talk things through and can’t reach a … Continue reading →

What Does it Mean to Be Head of the Household?

What does it mean to be the head of the household? That’s the question someone raised recently in response to an earlier blog written by someone else on this site. In this blog I’m going to try and answer what it means for a marriage for someone to be the head of the household. Let me start by saying what I don’t think it means. It doesn’t mean that one person is in charge and rules everything that happens in the marriage. I don’t believe, as the last person who commented did, that it means the head of the household’s … Continue reading →

The Third Person in a Marriage

There’s a third person in our marriage. Maybe there is in yours too, as there is in several other marriages I know. No, it’s not a new addition and no, neither of us is having an affair. The third person and a central person in our marriage is God. Traditional marriage vows undertaken in a church usually include the minister or priest saying something along the lines of ‘being gathered here in the sight of God and in the face of this company – to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which is commended to be … Continue reading →

Who’s the Boss?

Who is the boss in your marriage? Ideally, you might think no-one should be the boss in a marriage and that marriage is a partnership. But sometimes no matter how much we talk things through and try and work them out, we may find we have different ideas. Then what? When a decision needs to be made and you cannot agree, then someone has to end up making a decision. In the biblical view of marriage the husband is the head of the household and the wife is to submit to him. This does not mean that a husband has … Continue reading →