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Deciding Right From Wrong

This is part 3 in the Values that Last series where I’ll be touching on discerning right from wrong. My first blog was on choosing my standard and my second one was on why my beliefs matter. Each one of us has a basis for determining what is right from what is wrong in our lives. Just because something feels right, doesn’t mean that it is. As a Christian, my authority is God, and His guide book for my life is the Bible. As I look at 8 common pleasures in society, I can see potential for destruction: Eating: Like … Continue reading →

Finding the Right Church

Many have trouble finding the right church for their family. These include people who are new to the Christian faith, people who’ve grown up in religious homes and want something different, those who have located to a new area looking for a place to connect, and those who are unhappy in their current church. So when looking for a new church here are some things to think about: • Word of mouth is one of the best ways to find a good church. Asking other Bible believing Christians about their church or churches they’ve attended is a great way to … Continue reading →

Living with Engineers: It’s All in the Timing

Another engineer’s wife and I were having a discussion about household chores yesterday.  We were bemoaning the fact that if we want our husbands to do something for us, we either need to tell them right away, or it won’t happen at all. The engineer’s mind is a constant one-way track of processing information.  It’s what makes them so brilliant and efficient: they zero in on a task, giving it their complete focus until it’s done.  I’m almost always thinking about other things while I’m working on something, which is why it can take me longer to achieve something with … Continue reading →

The Grass Is Green Enough on This Side, Thank You

There was a time in my marriage when I thought the grass was greener on the other side. Those were probably some of the most difficult moments in my marriage. I was disillusioned and he was disappointing to me. I had expectations and when they weren’t met, I thought someone else could better meet them. This happened at different points in my marriage. Each time I allowed myself to think the grass was greener on the other side—whether there was a literal person I was thinking of or just the “idea” of a person—it caused greater distance between my husband … Continue reading →

Not My Idea of Romance

Not so much for me In my first two marriage posts I mentioned not really adhering to or enjoying “lovey-dovey” relationships. I realized if I’m going to keep using that as a contrast to what my marriage is like, I ought to define how I’m using the term. The simplest way, because otherwise the English major in me will extrapolate the phrase to death, is to do so with a story. My husband and I don’t give each other anniversary gifts, but that wasn’t always the case. When we were younger we did such things because we thought we should … Continue reading →

Connecting with Other Married Couples

I have always been a firm believer in date nights. Although we didn’t get to enjoy as many as we would have liked when our children were younger, we still tried to make sure they happened. But just as important as date nights are, I also think getting out with another couple is beneficial to a marriage. This is a great way to connect with others who are like-minded. When you spend time with another married couple, you get to observe their interactions. This can cause you to stop and think about something in your own marriage that could be … Continue reading →

Taking the High Road

Our family has been spending the last week and a half passing around the flu. I think it works out perfectly however, that just as I am starting to feel human again, my husband is the one to feel knocked down. Because let’s face it…life has to go on. The house still needs to be tended to, money must be made and children must be taken care of. But this can also be a very testy time. When you aren’t feeling well and you haven’t been getting good sleep, it can be a challenge to display your most pleasant side. … Continue reading →

Downsides of a Home-Based Business

I’m always writing about the benefits and the blessings of having a home-based business. However, the truth is that it isn’t for everyone. So now I am going to take a different approach, in an effort to prevent someone from making a huge mistake. The decision to start up a home-based business is not one that should be taken lightly. Once you dive in, there may be no going back before huge mistakes are made. So I feel it’s only right that I share some of the downsides to this. The first downside is the financial investment you must make. … Continue reading →

Working from Home Does Have Challenges

Twice this week I have heard the phrase, “Well at least…” This always refers to how much more fortunate I am for the work I do at home. It can be a real battle for me to hear those words. Because while it is true that I am blessed to be working from home and doing what I love, the context of those phrases is what gets to me. For instance, a family member was complaining about her schedule and how she can never take off work to get her children to doctor appointments and the like. Then came the … Continue reading →

Making Assumptions

Making assumptions about what your spouse believes or thinks about things can spell trouble. I read a story recently sent us by a friend about a situation in Papua New Guinea. The men and women were split into two separate groups. Each group was asked what they considered to be the three most important issues to support children at school. Then each group was asked what they thought the other group would say. The men said ‘double classrooms, libraries and teacher houses.’ When asked what the women would say, they assumed the women would say exactly the same as what … Continue reading →