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What To Teach Your Children About Marriage

What should you be teaching your children about marriage? What is the best way to go about teaching them are two questions to look at. Here are some things I believe we should be teaching our children about marriage. Marriage is not something that should be entered into lightly. Marriage between a man and a woman is a lifetime commitment not just until you get tires of the person or bored or it becomes too hard. Marriage is not for the faint hearted. It needs time, effort selflessness and work to make a great marriage. Don’t go into it thinking … Continue reading →

Your Biggest Fans

My husband is quite the super star in our home. While I’m with our kindergartener and three year old all day, feeding them and playing with them, it’s their daddy who gets flooded with adoration when coming home from work. At the sound of the garage door opening, the kids drop everything they are doing as if some super pop star has just arrived. It’s not just our boys who are excited to see him either. My husband’s arrival home means I have my best friend with me again to talk with and to help occupy the kids. We are … Continue reading →

Ask Yourself…Are You Really Ready To Get Married?

Getting married is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. You are choosing your life partner. Your spouse will be your confidant, your best friend, your playmate, your business partner, the one you turn to in times of worry and stress and someone you will need to rely on for the years to come. Oprah did a show recently where she referred to the issue of women in the United States getting married when they really did not want to or were pressured to do so an epidemic. The engagement ring. WOW! What a wonderful piece of … Continue reading →

No Longer Attracted to Your Spouse?

Sex is no doubt a very important part of marriage; but it is just that—a part. As some people come to a dry spell in their relationship not finding their spouse as appealing sexually as they once had, the temptations of extramarital affairs might come to mind, divorce, resentment and blame, or even depression. It’s important to reel yourself back to the heart of marriage which hopefully wasn’t based solely on sexual attraction but on genuine love and devotion. My hope too is that you are married to your very best friend and meant every single word of your marriage … Continue reading →

Holding a Crown over Your Spouse’s Head

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I think all of us need encouragement now and then and desire to have someone believe in us. It’s nice when a person has faith in my abilities and encourages me even when I’m not so confident. This is what I believe it means to hold a crown over another’s head. You are placing it just a little higher than where they are, giving them room to grow into it. It seems a little easier to be of praise and encouragement toward our friends. We may comment on their thoughtfulness and on their talents. We really ought to be doing … Continue reading →

Marrying Your Best Friend

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I recall helping an older lady bring groceries out to her car in the parking lot of our neighborhood supermarket I’d been working at. I was chit-chatting with her and I made mention of my upcoming wedding date. She was full of joy for me sharing that she and her husband had been married over 50 years. She volunteered that their secret to 50 years of happiness together was that they were each other’s best friend. I grew up having a best friend that I still love and keep contact with to this day. I know this lady was talking … Continue reading →

How to Parent Adult Step Children

Almost thirty years ago, Robert married a woman who had five grown children. No big deal, right? They ranged in age from mid-twenties to mid-thirties, so they had all been on their own for many years. They appeared to be well-adjusted, independent, responsible adults. They lived locally, and Robert and his wife socialized with them on a regular basis. So what was the problem? It turns out that there were many, but primary among them was the fact that his wife’s family was, what the shrinks would call, enmeshed. They were ‘all up in’ one another’s business—they spoke to one … Continue reading →

Adapting to the Holidays as a Married Couple

Our neighborhood held trick-or-treating last night to avoid going out on the Sabbath, and my kids had a ton of fun dressing up and heading out to collect their loot. I took them around, and my husband stayed home to hand out candy to those who came to our house. This is very representative of our personality styles. I’m the one who likes to go out and do things. I can more comfortably navigate my way through social circumstances, and because I’m the “mean” parent, I can herd four overly excited children up and down the street. My husband likes … Continue reading →

Different Reactions

Sometimes you may find you and your intended may react to certain people and circumstances differently. You will need to decide if you marry whether this is going to be a problem and how you will resolve. It is far better to sort it out before you get married than leave it till after. It may just be a situation or relationship that is a deal breaker. Of course, even after you are married, you may find you and your spouse will react differently to a certain person or situation. I remember one time my daughter and I had to … Continue reading →

Warm, Welcoming and Wise

Finally I’ve returned from my various excursions into other areas to come back to the alphabetical marriage blog. I believe we’re up to W. Warm Show your spouse the warmth of your love each day. Welcoming Welcome them with a kiss and a hug when they come home or whenever you have been apart, even if they’ve only been out in the garden for a while. Let them know you’re glad they’re there. Also be welcoming to others and welcome them into your home. As we share our lives with others, they will see the way we are living and … Continue reading →