Marrying Your Best Friend

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06 Oct 2006 01:58 AM

I recall helping an older lady bring groceries out to her car in the parking lot of our neighborhood supermarket I'd been working at. I was chit-chatting with her and I made mention of my upcoming wedding date. She was full of joy for me sharing that she and her husband had been married over 50 years. She volunteered that their secret to 50 years of happiness together was that they were each other's best friend.

I grew up having a best friend that I still love and keep contact with to this day. I know this lady was talking about something deeper though. My husband was the one I'd be sharing the rest of my life with. I would share all my good times and all my bad times with him. We were about to vow for eternity on this earth to love and cherish each other, for better, for worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health. I'd better be pretty close with him if he's to be the one I give all of myself to.

Thankfully I met a man who, on the first date we had, I had a gut feeling that I'd be with him forever. I was only 16 and he was 17. We were married about 3 years from that time allowing ourselves to get to know each other, to grow and watch each other change. We've been married for 10 years this next June.

Bryan,

I love you so much. I don't need flowers from you to know you love me. You show your love by keeping your vows to me daily. I didn't marry you for anything you had to give me or prove to me. I married you because I love the person God made you to be. You are loyal, kind and so patient with me. You love our children and would do anything for any of us. I feel so blessed to have found you.

Love always,

Melissa

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brystro (299) 06 Oct 2006 11:41 AM

That's sweet of you! I knew you were the one I was to marry early on in our relationship. I look forward to our 10 yr anniversary and many more to come. You are also an excellent blogger!

Grammi58 (396) 06 Oct 2006 06:30 PM

That was such a sweet thing you said about your husband. I can't believe that I'm still married to a guy going on 29 years(we met in high school/married 2 1/2 years later)

Megan Bayliss (3586) 07 Oct 2006 01:00 AM

MJ and Brian - CONGRATULATIONS! Keep fertilising the garden, because if you don't, the weeds take over (I'm talking from experience). Mxx

Melissa J (13710) 07 Oct 2006 01:11 PM

Thanks Megan! I so appreciate your "garden" comparison :).

Linda Hansen (1796) 10 Oct 2006 05:42 AM

MJ, it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling to hear of a successful marriage. So many look at commitment as a relationship with disposable options. Marriage is not all about romance and dancing into the sunset. Its about a lot of hard work and learning to LIVE together in a peaceful, respectful and conducive manner. Its about learning to cohabitate in agreement, raising children together (if you choose to have kids), and developing a strong friendship for life.