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What Your Spouse Is Made Of

When problems come and the unexpected happens, you really find out what your spouse is made of. That has been my experience this week. Last Saturday night I took a fall. It was one of those things you’d see on a show like funniest home videos, as my foot tangled round a small rail, I lost balance and somersaulted over the next lot of seats in the grandstand at the football stadium and ending up hanging there. Sounds funny and probably looked that way too. But I can tell you I wasn’t laughing at the time or since. The ribs … Continue reading →

Luck Has Nothing To Do With It.

The other day we saw how in the soap opera marriage it is so often about self. Sadly that’s also what you see that in some other marriages around where each person is mostly concerned with their rights and what they want, rather than caring for their mate and being selfless in their love. It is an idea that is constantly promoted by our society and our advertising media – that you’re no the most important person in a marriage. I beg to differ. I’d suggest that rather than being focused on self the marriage which is more likely to … Continue reading →

Honor Your Spouse?

In the marriage service it says love, honor and obey or love honor and cherish depending on which version you choose to have. What exactly does it mean to honor your spouse? Let’s start by what it doesn’t mean and what it does. You can honor them or dishonor them by the way you talk to your spouse and the way you talk about them. When you whine and whine to others about your spouse and their faults is that honoring your spouse? Not in my books it isn’t. Instead, it means honoring them with your actions and your words. … Continue reading →

It’s Complicated Or Is It?

Yesterday I heard a young married woman holding forth about the reasons why she won’t go to see a recently released movie. The prime reason is because in her words, ‘it makes a mockery of marriage.’ She doesn’t want to support any movie making venture that makes a mockery of marriage. This young woman has been married only a few years. In her own words she is still on her L plates when it comes to marriage, but it seems to me that she’s got something right. She considers marriage to be something sacred and about forever love, not here … Continue reading →

Can You Die of a Broken Heart?

Can you die of a broken heart? It appears you can. Our local paper ran a story about Vera Guthrie. Vera had been married to Tom for over 65 years. He died six months ago. According to family members she was broken hearted after her beloved husband died. And in fact, she died ‘when her aorta split.’ Contrast this lasting marriage, where she was broken hearted without her long term husband, with one I heard about recently. After costing over the parents of the supposed happy couple $30,000 for the wedding, the marriage lasted a total of six months. Wouldn’t … Continue reading →

The Number 1 Attitude

The more I thought about that research and the claims that self control could be bad and have negative effects, the more it seemed to me it is just another excuse for selfishness. The simple fact is our society promotes selfishness. Advertising gurus have fed us the lie ‘it’s all about you,’ and society has swallowed it. The ads tell us, ‘you’re the most important person,’ or ‘you’re worth it.’ So is it any wonder people then go into marriage with the attitude of what they can get out of it rather than what they can give. I was talking … Continue reading →

Behind Every Good Man…

Recently I wrote about 87 year old volunteer, Cyril Brown. Don’t you wonder what this guy would be like in a marriage? Would he be so involved with others that he doesn’t have time or make time for his spouse? Or would he be the kind of guy who helps out at home and is looking for ways to serve his wife? It made me wonder. We’ve heard the adage about ‘behind every good man there’s a good woman.’ Is it true in this case? Maybe Cyril hasn’t got a wife. That’s why he spends so much time helping others. … Continue reading →

A Novel Approach to Marital Advice

Recently in response to a blog, Andrea,one of our families.com members shared some advice she was given before marriage by her mother and brother. Heidi and Hunterchad also had great advice. No doubt, we’ve all been given marriage advice at some time or another, some of it good and some not so good. A young couple I know took a novel approach to this. I admit, I’m not a fan of kitchen teas but this one sounded a better idea than most. Each woman invited, including the bride to be’s future mother in law and a number of older women, … Continue reading →