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Gratitude In Life and Marriage

Gratitude is an important aspect of life, and especially married life. It is important that our spouse knows that we are grateful for them, for their love and support. The recent visit for the Watoto children’s choir, their gratitude and love for life started me thinking about the things that I am grateful for. I’m grateful for: My husband I am grateful for Mick’s love and support. I am grateful for the relationship we have. I’m grateful that he loves me, and that he holds me and listens to me. I’m grateful he is there to talk through problems with … Continue reading →

Identifying Weeds in a Marriage

Yesterday we looked at a few deceptive weeds that can creep into a marriage by looking attractive at first. A lot depends on your definition of weed. You might have different ideas about what is a weed and what is not. Though other people might call them flowers, like snowball trees, snowdrops, or white jonquils to me they are weeds. In our garden anything that flowers white is a weed by my standards. Mick dutifully g digs them out, because he knows how I hate them. But some weeds easy to spot. Here, in no particular order, are some weeds … Continue reading →

Other Ways Children’s Behavior Can Affect a Marriage.

Yesterday we looked at some ways children’s behavior can affect and undermine a marriage. Here is another way. Some children, by their anti social behavior, affect friendships and marriages. Take this example, of a couple I know who invited another couple and their child over for dinner one evening. After dinner, the child who may have been hyperactive or maybe had a problem like ADHD started to swing on a tall piece of furniture which threatened to topple over. If it did it could have caused serious injury to the child and also have caused damage to the furniture and … Continue reading →

Marriage is a Compromise

Yesterday Mick and I saw The Dark Knight. Having seen Batman Begins recently on DVD, I was mildly curious to see The Dark Knight but knew he really wanted to see it. Though happy to go along, I expected he’d enjoy the movie more than I did. The Dark Knight was what I refer to as a ‘boy movie’ with lots of action, violence and things blowing up right left and centre. Of course it was also more than that and made me think about some themes it raised, but that happened after, not while, watching the movie. If you … Continue reading →

Laziness – part 1 – in marriage

Laziness can be a seductive but deadly trait in just about all areas of life. It can be detrimental in our marriages, in our relationship with God, in parenting, in our service for God and our church life, in friendships and other relationships, and in our work situations. Starting with marriage, over the next few days I’m going to write about each of these areas of life. Marriage – It is easy when we have been married a while it become lazy and complacent and not bother to look attractive for them or to not make the effort to spend … Continue reading →

F Means Fail

F means fail, right? So you certainly don’t want to get an F for your marriage. So here are three Fs to help keep your marriage on the right track. Faithfulness Being faithful to each other is a cornerstone of marriage. You need to know that your spouse is faithful to you when they’re at work or away on a trip. Your spouse needs to know you are faithful to them. But it’s more than just being faithful in the sexual sense, important as that is. It’s also being faithful in the way you talk about them to others. Constant … Continue reading →

The Way Couples Relate

I watch people. Now maybe it’s because I’m a writer or maybe it’s just that I’m interested in people but I watch how couples relate to each other especially in marriage. Some couples never seem to touch each other. They never hold hands or stand with their arms around each other. I think it’s sad. I could never imagine being with a man who didn’t want to, or was incapable of showing affection. I hear of other couples where men never express their love, of men and women who have been married for years and the husband has never said … Continue reading →

Maintaining Friends

On one of the forums recently one person bemoaned the fact that since she and her boyfriend have been together she has lost contact with friends. This is what can often happen when people become part of a couple or get married, unless we make an effort not to allow it too. We need to work to prevent this and to ensure that we maintain friendships that were formed in earlier times. We cannot afford to be cavalier with friendships and disregard them easily. True friends are a great source of blessing, help and encouragement as we go through life … Continue reading →

The Danger of Selective Reading

Recently it occurred to me that there are distinct similarities between crossword puzzles and reading the bible. Let me explain. Often in a crossword, the clue doesn’t seem to make sense. You can’t think of the word you need to fill in the squares. Then you work on a couple of the clues going the other way. That fills in some of the letters and suddenly, you have enough clues to figure out the missing word. It’s like a light making everything clear. It’s like that when we’re reading the bible. We need to look at what is going on … Continue reading →

The Choice for Parents

In the forums Amand44 and several others,expressed anger and disappointment at the lack of supervision that sees children roaming the streets. The same thing happens here in Australia. Some parents have forgotten that parenting is an active choice. Parents need to do more than just breed children and then let them do as they like. They need to parent their children and not be afraid of using discipline and corrective measures. Mostly what I believe children today need is time invested in them. Too often Mom and Dad are at work. Children come home to empty houses or are left … Continue reading →