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Doctor Visit Raises Question of Fidelity

A few years back, before we moved to Nashville, Wayne and I used to see the same doctor. However, we never visited at the same time. Except for one time. Sort of. We weren’t in there at the same time, but we both found ourselves in the doctor’s office on the same day. I went for my annual exam. Wayne went in because his ear was bothering him and he feared it was infected. (As an avid swimmer, it was something that happened to him now and again.) I went in and everything went as it was supposed to. No … Continue reading →

Folly and Fidelity

Sometimes we don’t see what is staring us right in the face. We may need to listen to the wisdom and counsel of others who are older and wiser, Proverbs 5:1. How carefully do we listen to those who have wisdom and insight? Proverbs 5:13. On the other hand, when we have experience and wisdom in a certain problem or situation, do we share that wisdom with others, so they may benefit from what we have learned? The trouble is even those with wisdom may not be right in every case, so how do we know where to turn? We … Continue reading →

Laziness – part 1 – in marriage

Laziness can be a seductive but deadly trait in just about all areas of life. It can be detrimental in our marriages, in our relationship with God, in parenting, in our service for God and our church life, in friendships and other relationships, and in our work situations. Starting with marriage, over the next few days I’m going to write about each of these areas of life. Marriage – It is easy when we have been married a while it become lazy and complacent and not bother to look attractive for them or to not make the effort to spend … Continue reading →

What You Might Not Have Known About Affairs

In my quest to find information about affairs and STDs I stumbled across “Infidelity: Myths, Facts and Healing,” an article by Ofer Zur, Ph.D. Dr. Zur discussed all manner of things related to affairs and presented some very interesting facts about them. Or at least I found them interesting. They were things I didn’t know. I listed my revelations below. 1. Finally! A concise definition of infidelity. Maybe Dr. Zur’s not the first to define it thusly, but of all the definitions I’ve read this one was most succinctly stated: “Infidelity is unfaithfulness to a sexual partner in an agreed … Continue reading →

Which is Worse: An Emotional Affair or a Physical One?

Other than receiving news your spouse is dead (either because he or she was murdered, involved in a fatal car accident, or killed during some other tragedy) I can’t think of much worse news you could receive than to find out your spouse was unfaithful. But there are two kinds of affairs: physical ones and affairs of the heart. As I wrote in True Love Doesn’t Equal Perfect Love, if Wayne ever confessed to an affair I wouldn’t automatically start seeking legal services. I’d wait to figure out what kind of tryst he’d had. (Unless, of course, he told me … Continue reading →

Keeping the happily ever after.

Valentine’s Day is the day for letting the one you love, know how you feel about them. But it shouldn’t just be on Valentine’s Day. My husband and I have been married for more than two thirds of our lives. Yes, we married young – both under 21. In all that time there has not been a day when he has not told me he loved me and I have not told him I loved him. Sure, we show it by our actions and the things we do, but it’s always nice to hear the words. That’s one way of … Continue reading →