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Do You Feel Inadequate as a Mother?

An article I read today, written almost 35 years ago really resonated with me. Isn’t it amazing how the Lord works? This woman who wrote this article touched someone who wasn’t even born when she wrote it. Me. I have been feeling a lot of feelings lately that I have felt guilty for feeling. Things like, “I can’t wait until my kids are older” and “I have no time to myself” and, “What have I gotten myself into?” I recently had my third child, and life seems chaotic, and overwhelming right now. Adjusting to a new life in the house, … Continue reading →

Feelings of Inadequacy

I imagine that all of us wrestle with feelings of inadequacy at one time or another and it is not just us single parents who fight the battle. Still, as single parents, it can often feel like we are climbing up that steep hill with a big rock on our backs and not doing a very good job of it to boot. Where can we go with feelings inadequacy and what can be done to stop them? Personally, I have found that when I succumb to those feelings of inadequacy, I tend to be focusing on external things to define … Continue reading →

Overwhelmed and Inadequate?

It is so common to deal with feelings of inadequacy. There are times when you may simply be overwhelmed with the responsibilities that are resting on your shoulders as a member of the church, a parent or just a person. It is important to realize that we are not expected to be perfect. We should be striving to improve ourselves, but we are not expected to be perfect. Some days you may have those aha moments when every thing clicks together and your understanding increases dramatically. But generally you will progress an inch or two at a time. Sometimes we … Continue reading →

Feeling Inadequate

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Do you ever feel this way? I sure do. I find myself analyzing various aspects of my life and looking at how my abilities measure up to those of others. I know it’s not a healthy thing to do because I will never measure up in every area. There are some who have been given talents that others haven’t. There are those who were born “beautiful”, and those who weren’t. It seems some people receive unfair advantages while others struggle to make it. No one said life was fair. There are times when I wish I was a better wife … Continue reading →

Relief Society: Do You Feel Inadequate?

One of the hardest things about Relief Society is that you may compare yourself to other women. When this happens most people come up feeling short. It is too easy to become caught up in what you are not doing that you become overwhelmed in your day-to-day life. As members of the church we each know that there is always something more that we can do. There is always something we can improve on. While it is important to continue to work towards improvement, it is important to realize that this shouldn’t be our entire focus. In 2 Nephi 28:30 … Continue reading →

Save Money by Planning Ahead

Dear overachiever mom who attached stuffed animals to the Valentine’s Day cards your kid passed out at school last week:  I don’t hate you.  Never mind, that all my 8-year-old Scotch-taped to her Snoopy Love Day cards were small packages of Skittles.  Not six-inch plush puppies.  I’m sure you never intended to make the rest of us parents feel like inadequate, uninspired, cheap losers. Listen, I considered flexing my creative muscle and having my kid attach snack-sized bags of peanuts to the cards.  Get it?  Snoopy, Charlie Brown, Lucy… the Peanuts gang?  Of course, sending nuts to school in this … Continue reading →

Serving Others Despite A Busy Life

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I have been thinking a lot lately about serving others. At this stage in my life, it feels impossible to reach outside the needs of my own little family that demands so much, to others that might be in need. However, I believe that the Lord expects so much more of each of us. In the book, Daughters in My Kingdom, there is a quote by George Albert Smith that states, “Our eternal happiness will be in proportion to the way that we devote ourselves to helping others.” When you really think about that statement, it is hard not to … Continue reading →

The Atonement Also Applies to Motherhood

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We hear it all the time. “Be Ye Therefore Perfect, Even as I Am.” But, we also hear just as much that we are not expected to be perfect in this life. It is a goal. To set our sights on the Perfect Example, and follow Jesus Christ. Doing our best to be just like Him, yet humble enough to accept His grace and know that it is only through Him that we can return and live with God again. The other day, I was having a particularly rough morning. I don’t even remember now what was going on. Typical … Continue reading →

Redefining Beauty

Divorce tends to take a heavy toll on your self-esteem. When someone you used to love decides they don’t want to be with you anymore, a myriad of feelings start to weigh down on you.. You feel rejected, inadequate, and alone. You wonder what is wrong with you. You may find yourself looking in the mirror and wondering, “If only I were (blank) maybe he would still be here.” While we know this thinking is not rational, we all find ourselves doing this from time to time. As women we are overly critical of ourselves. We so often fill our … Continue reading →

Don’t Let Others Define You

I care too much about what others think of me. This is something I struggled with long before my divorce, but has gotten significantly worse since then. Before I got married I was strong and confident. I cared about what others thought of me, but I put up a pretty good front that I didn’t. As time went on, that wall came crashing down. As a single mom I often felt inadequate. I knew that I was doing the best that I could, but sometimes I wondered if other people were judging my parenting. People often make assumptions about single … Continue reading →